Personal boundaries are the rules and limits we set for ourselves in relationships. Boundaries help us to contribute meaningfully to the relationships in our lives without compromising our peace or standards. The skill of setting, articulating and holding clear boundaries gives us capacity for sustained contribution.

In order to do something great with your life you have to be willing to resist the temptation to do what is familiar and easy. Going against the norm is having the courage to do what is right, even when it goes against what is considered the norm. It is essentially a courage walk.

Discomfort has a powerful purpose, yet our culture promotes fear of and avoidance of discomfort. Although we often cannot see the larger purpose of discomfort immediately, we have to trust that life is happening for us. A life devoid of discomfort is a life without depth or meaning and the paradox is that the discomfort that is initially a roadblock and a source of pain becomes the road to our greater self. A new layer of freedom is experienced when we face discomfort as an opportunity.

Fear - we know it, we can understand it, but to walk though it is a completely different level of courage and skillset. Fear is when you focus on the fall, not on what you want and neglecting to implement the skill of pivoting on what you actually want. So we get stuck in the 'fall' and end up settling.

To live a life of constant fear is to not live at all. Managing our fear is about shifting our fear from, 'this is so scary' to 'this is worth fighting for'.

This is the skill of holding someone responsible for a standard, expectation or commitment. Without it the integrity of relationships and the values of society weaken. This skill assumes that each one of us bear the consequences for our actions and inactions. It is the skill of reminding yourself and others of their responsibility.

It is a counter cultural skill in a world characterised by the mantra 'You do you'. When we have no standards for our own and others behaviour we are all robbed of the opportunity to become our best self.

Comparison – we experience it, we recognize it, but breaking free from its grip requires a completely different level of awareness and skillset.

Comparison happens when we focus on what we lack rather than the unique strengths we bring to the table, neglecting to develop the skill of celebrating our individuality. So we stay stuck in the trap of “not enough” and settle for less than we’re capable of. To live a life bound by comparison is to not live fully at all.

Mastering comparison is about shifting from, “I’ll never measure up” to “I am worthy of my own race.”